- As we all know, having a friend is quite simple, but having a good friend is much harder than having a friend. You may have many friends in your whole life, but just one or two of them might be your good friends. So, it is becoming more and more significant that how should we cope the friendship especially for making mistake.
- While getting along with friends, all of us have met the moment more or less when we notice a friend make a mistake. It is a dilemma of choosing whether we should leave that alone or we should say or do something. How do you think? Which will you choose?
- Many people hold the opinion that letting friends make mistakes is better because they recognize that saying or doing something may destroy the friendship. However, I believe a true friend should be candid and sincere, and we should point out our friends' mistakes when they are going to do something wrong.
- It is true that we should allow friends to make mistakes which are not huge problem. Many small mistakes or inessential problems we should allow our friends to make.
- For example, you had already made an appointment with your friend to have a dinner together. You arrived the place on time, but your friend did not show up until the restaurant closed. When you went back home, your friend gave you a reasonable explanation and paid an apology to you sincerely. Will you be still mad at his friend in this case? Probably not.
- Letting your friends make a small mistake, it is the majority of people's choice. However, it is rarely true that letting friend make a mistake is better than saying or doing something to friend which will not destroy the friendship.
- For instance, if one of your friends spend all his time in front of computer to play online games without caring about his studies. It is your responsibility to warm him to assemble on academic study and shunning away from the bad behavior.
- If you do not and your friend suddenly realize you to let his make mistake instead of pointing his mistake out timely, he may consider you are not sincere enough as a friend. When the faith is lost in the reliability of friends, it definitely will hurt and damage the friendship.
- In contrast, if you point out a silly mistake or help him correct the mistake, he may get angry at that moment. However, when he become mature enough to distinguish between right or wrong, he will appreciate what you did, and your friendship will become closer at the same time.
- Anyway, I believe that a true friend should be candid and sincere, which means when a person is going to do something seriously wrong, his/her friends will dissuade it and will not flatter me, but point out my defects. So, letting your friends make a mistake is not always better than saying or doing something.
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Should we allow friends to make mistakes?
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I agree. But your article talked about two points. The first point is If our friends make mistake with me. The second point is if our friend make mistake in their our lives.
ReplyDeleteThe first point which is if they make mistake with me. we have to know if we expect no mistakes from our friends, that means we are looking for angels. And if we say for them it is ok when they make mistakes, that is also not the solution because they feel this is a warrant. So we have to be silent when we make a new relationship, and we have to know everyone makes mistakes. And when they make mistakes we must to discuss whit them the problem. And also it depend in the problem. It is big or silly. After that, we can deiced to forgive them or not.
The second point, which is if they make mistakes in their lives. We have to give them advices, but there are two condition for a good advice, which are:
1- A advice must be will polite,kind, and sincere words.
2- A advice must be between you and him alone nobody around you, even they are closer friends, and you have to explain for him you are tell him that because his is important for you.
Yes, I agree with your opinion. It's naturely that everyone will make mistakes. So I think not only for friends, even for some people you don't know well, you should allow them to make mistakes. Also, for good friends, bast friends, I think not only about the small mistake, mybe some big mistake we should also allowed, and say our suggestion, opinions to them. I think it's nessesery between best friends.
ReplyDeleteI agree. Friends are very important for us. Mostly base on what kind of friends.I will forgive my best friends all the time, my friend did the same on me.Best friend can help always be with you, so we should keep the relationship.Any way, i care about this relationship alot.
ReplyDeleteI disagree with you in two things. First, we should not allow our friend to make a mistake. We should a dvise them to do the good thing,and if they did a mistake we should advise them in a polite way.Second,if we have a friend playing computer games ,and he did not care about his study. We should advise him also.Without warn him. We can't warn him ,because we are not his perants.,so it is not our respensibility to warn him. What we can do to him is advise him in a polite way,without acting as we are his father.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you opinion. I think it is very hard for us to get a good friend. So if you think your friend is a good friend. You can allow he have a mistake. Because we a too young to have no mistake. Sometimes we do some bad things. Just because we are too young. So if your friends do some wrong things or mistake, I think you'd better allow him. Because he is your friend.
ReplyDeleteIn the fact, we think we have many friends, but when we got trouble or diffclut, who stand out to give you help is your beast friend. we know that we can make many friend without really emotion. how to called the relationship like this we meet some people any times we do not hang out or talk each other, but we know each other, when we meet together we greet one another. so we called it friends. that means friends are easy to making, but best friends is not easy to find. that need long time understand one another. moreover, if our friends make mistake which are not to bad,we should contain them and pint out their mistake, helping them correct their fault. Also, best friends without benefits, it means if we want to get something or some advantages from friend, that will hurt the relationship, make it finish as soon as possible.
ReplyDeleteyes, we should do. "A clear stream is avoided by fish." that means you will get nothing, if you run after rigor. we should accept friends' mistakes. No one can always do thing right. but if we know something will go wrong, we should avoid as possible as we can. in a word, driving friend is a part of art of life, we must take care of it. if your friend made a mistake, try to forgive him/her and help them to go right way.
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I agree with your opinion. It doesn't matter for them if they were real friends each other. Also we should understand even their mistake. It will be just as a happening for them and the mistake is possible with friendship. People usually learn more and more through their mistake and their experience. Sometimes it will be helpful for their life whatever it is. If our friend made mistake, we should understand and encourage more and more.
ReplyDeleteYes!You are right. Because having a good friend is really important to us.Nobody cna survive without a friend. If you have a real good friend and he/she can be the one who can understand you and care about you. If you have problems she/he will help you without paying back. Even we may make some mistakes to each other. for our friends they will not focus on your mistakes ,they will forgive you and you can improve yourself by each other.
ReplyDeleteYes. I agree with your opinion. I think we should allow our friends to make mistakes. I think everybody will have their own mistake. But if they can fix it, and do not make anymore, that will be fine. Such as me, sometime i also make some mistakes, but i fix it on time. And i remeber God also forgive people who make mistakes. That is very natural thing. We cannot control anyone, if your trust your friend, them will trust you. I know they will not make their mistake anymore. So, do not anger with them. Just forgive them and improve them.
ReplyDelete1. As we all know, having a friend is quite simple, but having a good friend is much harder than having a friend. You may have many friends in your whole life, but just one or two of them might be your good friends. So, it is becoming more and more significant * how WE should * cope WITH * friendship, especially WHEN OUR FRIENDS MAKE mistakeS.
ReplyDelete2. While getting along with friends, all of us have met the moment more or less when we notice a friend MAKING a mistake. It is a dilemma * whether we should leave that alone or we should say or do something. WHAT do you think? Which will you choose?
3. Many people hold the opinion that letting friends make mistakes is better because they THINK that saying or doing something may destroy THEIR friendship. However, I believe a true friend should be candid and sincere, and we should point out our friends' mistakes when they are going to do something wrong.
4. It is true that we should allow friends to make mistakes which are not huge problemS. THERE ARE Many small mistakes or inessential problems we should allow our friends to make.
5. For example, you * already made an appointment with your friend to have a dinner together. You arrived AT the place on time, but your friend did not show up until the restaurant closed. When you went back home, your friend gave you a reasonable explanation and MADE an apology to you sincerely. Will you be still mad at THIS friend in this case? Probably not.
6. Letting your friends make a small mistake * is the CHOICE BY THE majority of PEOPLE *. However, it is rarely true that letting A friend make a mistake is better than saying or doing something to HER/HIM BECAUSE IT will not destroy the friendship.
7. For instance, if one of your friends spendS all his time in front of A computer to play online games without caring about his studies, I(SMALL)t is your responsibility to warm(warn?) him to FOCUS on academic study and SHUN BEHAVE BADLY.
8. If you do not POINT OUT THEIR MISTAKES and your friend suddenly realizeS THAT you * let HIM make mistakeS instead of pointing his mistakeS out timely, he may consider you are not sincere enough as a friend. When the faith is lost in the FRIENDSHIP *, it WILL definitely * hurt and damage IT.
9. In contrast, if you point out a silly mistake or help him correct IT, he may get angry at that moment. However, when he becomeS mature enough to distinguish between right AND wrong, he will appreciate what you did, and your friendship will become STRONGER at the same time.
10. Anyway, I believe that a true friend should be candid and sincere, which means when a person is going to do something seriously wrong, his/her friends will dissuade HIM/HER FROM DOING IT WITHOUT flatterING HIM/HER, but point out HIS/HER defects. So, letting your friends make a mistake is not always better than saying or doing something FOR IT.
This all depends on what kind of mistakes they make. Are they remediable? Are they not hurting somebody? In my opinion, people learn more from mistakes than from success. So people should make lots of mistakes. But we should also remember that you can learn from mistakes only if you try to do so. Some people just keep making the same mistakes, not learning anything from their experience. It may take time and effort for the makeup, but when it is done, you are more than what you were before the mistake.
If your friendship breaks easily, the person was not your friend. A friendship is mortal, but firm. If you stop your friend from doing something irreparable, and if she/he is angry with you, forget the friendship with her/him. Friendship is not a duty, but a choice.