Thursday, February 4, 2010

The divorce in the family!


  1. I think the divorce is a big problem in the world. It becomes common.The statistic shows there are a lot of couples divorced for no reasons.
  2. Yes with no reasons, it is a petty thing. They decide that when they anger don't worry about their children.
  3. In some case the man doesn't has any responsibility.He doesn't care about his family.He wastes the money in the drinking and for fun.
  4. In the other wise, the wife go to the work and getting tired to save some money to her family but she will not stand a long time one day she will explode like the bomb.
  5. sometimes the opposite, in the all cases there is a person who doesn't care about the children and the family.
  6. I think all of them have to take and give not just take and not just give. The marriage life need cooperative work with each other, no selfishness at all.
  7. That of course is a enormous problem for their children.They will have psychological problem in the future.The marriage will be like the ghost. It looks like abortive experiment.
  8. But sometimes it will be a good lesson in their life. They will think very carefully when they decide to get married.they will chose the right woman or man to live with.
  9. Any way the couples have to tray not getting divorce in order to their children.After their children grow up they can make a new life.
  10. If the divorce happened in my opinion , the woman has to stay with her children doesn't keep them, they need her in any time,she has to give them the love and tenderness.
    She can give them the things that the man can't give to them.
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14 comments:

  1. geeFebruary 4, 2010 at 8:08 PM

    I totally agree with your opinion. Divorce is harmful for children. Parents have a reponsibility to care their children. Also, if they have a quarrel, it could be solved themselves by conversation. Conjugal quarrel ought to not to react emotionally. They should try communicate about their thought. In addition,they should have a enough time and understand each other.

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  2. MustafaFebruary 5, 2010 at 12:40 PM

    Nobody likes divorce. I agree with you, but you wrote about different points.
    The first point you wrote about it, that is the causes for divorcing, and I agree with all these causes, but I have comment which is you point all causes for men, and that is not right.

    The second point you wrote about is, that is how a pair can succeeded in their marriage life. Also I agree with you.

    The third point about what is the effect in the children, and that is right.

    The last point about if the divorce happened. I disagree with you. A mother can keep the children until they come ten years old. Then a father has to keep them. It is some kind of balance, and each side should be equal. The mother teaches them some stuff and the father also teaches them stuff.

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  3. TimFebruary 6, 2010 at 8:38 AM

    I agree with you. Nowadays, divorce become a common thing in the world,It exprss some people think marriage likes a game,game over marriage also finish.That people ignore whether divorce is fair to their children and what effect for the children.Moreover they understand divorce means they will have a new life, they can find a new person rely on.But their children inability to prevent divorce happen, even some children are infant, that is a sorriness for the world. People should self-examination, don not treat marriage like a game.

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  4. JerryFebruary 6, 2010 at 10:27 AM

    I agree with you,we know in this society,with the high pace of the world,people get a lot of pressure from work and family.They are getting tired of the life .
    For most of the families，they live happily.
    BUT there are also many families are suffering sadness,because the couples fed up with each other.sometimes they solve the problems violently,their kids can be hurt.They are innocent.
    So adults should be responsible to make their family better!

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  5. JiansongFebruary 6, 2010 at 2:05 PM

    I strongly agree of your point. Divorce is a very common problem right now, no one hope this will happen. mostly people need to have responsibility to the family. Their kids easy to have a bad childhood.For me, in this case, people should give each other more chance to save this family...Everyone should have a normal happy life.

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  6. EthanFebruary 6, 2010 at 3:20 PM

    Though divorce terminates a disharmony marrage both each other,it also make a family life break up, if they have kids, this behaviour hurts them too.Indeed,a bad marrage can't bring happiness each other instead of suffering.It is ture being together or breaking up needs no reason.However,to get married and to have children mean you all accept these attendent responsibilities,or everything that goes with it.Only children left is innocent of breaking,they are miserabled and unassisted,because they do nothing wrong!Why there are a lot of unaccountable parents? Maybe life for someone is also no reason to going on with mismarriage.I wanna appeal that they have each other in each others arms to cherish their love.

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  7. Omar Al jawderFebruary 6, 2010 at 5:08 PM

    You have some points I agree with it, and other points I disagree with it. The divorce is a big problem, and there are many cause the divorce. Such as the man or the woman chosed the wrong person for some reasone like money, beuaty or so on. Each of them should chose the person whp has a good morals, and can be a father/mather for your children. The divore is not an easy thing because there are a link between the couples which is the children. The couples must solve the problem in a good and logical way . Finally, if the divorce happen the childern should stay with their mother and their father.I mean of course the childre need their mother ,but also thier father. They should see their father every day like one hour or more EVERY DAY. The children should sleep with their mother because they need the love.
    (intersting issue)

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  8. LeoFebruary 7, 2010 at 2:13 PM

    I agree with you. First, marriage is one of the most crucial event in everyone's life. It should be chosed carefully. If you make a divorce with your lover with no reason, why you will get married with him(her)? Second, the divorce will effect the kid with a great hram in their heart.So, take care of your family,and take care of yourself.

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  9. AlexFebruary 7, 2010 at 3:49 PM

    I agree with you. With the development of society, there are more and more people get divorce especially for America. According to the marriage age has become lower and lower, sometimes the man and woman don’t want whether they really love each other. And if they have a child, it will be a big challenge for him/her. Even though they can try to do best, it may be still a big shock. It can change the child’s life.

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  10. RyanFebruary 7, 2010 at 5:31 PM

    I totally agree with you. I think divorce is a very important problem. Many parents doesn't care their children's mind. So I think the most important things for divorce is their children. All of child want have a good family and a good parents. So I think parents need give their children a happy childhood. Not a had childhood.

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  11. Ang, LiFebruary 8, 2010 at 6:56 PM

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  12. Ang, LiFebruary 8, 2010 at 7:03 PM

    I agree with your opinion. I think divorce is really a bad thing to each family.As parents, they should resiponsible for themselves and their family. A family is create by them, them should do more positive things and love each other.Do not hurt each other, you have to keep your love in heart. Think about your children, they do not want people say them do not a complete family,they want to have a happy chilhood and enjoy their life with their parents.

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  13. nobiFebruary 8, 2010 at 7:22 PM

    1. I think * divorce is a big problem in the world. It IS becomING common. * Statistic shows there are a lot of couples divorced for no reasons.
    2. Yes with no reasons, it is a petty thing. They decide that when they ARE ABGRY AND THEY don't worry about their children.
    3. In some caseS, the man doesn't HAVE any responsibility. He doesn't care about his family. He wastes * money ON * drinking and * fun.
    4. In * other WORDS, the wife goES to * work and GETS tired OF savING some money FOR her family but she will not stand a long time, AND one day she will explode like A bomb.
    5. Sometimes IT IS the opposite, BUT in * all THE cases, there is a person who doesn't care about HER/HIS children and * family.
    6. I think all of them have to take and give, BUT MUST not just take OR * give. * Marriage life need cooperative work with each other, no selfishness CAN PLAY A ROLE at all.
    7. That, of course, is aN enormous problem for their children. They will have psychological problemS in the future. The marriage will be like A ghost. It looks like abortive experiment.
    8. But sometimes it will be a good lesson in their life. They will think very carefully when they decide to get married. They will CHOOSE the right woman or man to live with.
    9. ANYWAY, * couples MUST TRY * not TO divorce in order FOR their children. After their children grow up, they can make a new life.
    10. IN MY OPINION, If A divorce happenS, * the woman has to stay with her children WHO(?) doesn't keep them BECAUSE they need her AT any time, AND she has to give them the love and tenderness. She can give them the things that the man can't give to them.

    I guess you and I are the only ones who are married now. Reading others' comments, yes, no one thinks that divorce is acceptable, and no one thinks they will divorce, but some do. Why?
    According to one hypothesis, love of human beings last as long as three years only. Love of animals usually last only until their kinds grow up to be able to live by themselves, such as though hunting. I bet three years is too short for a human being to be independent, but they assumed that it was enough back in the old days.
    So after these three years, what will be left between a married couple? Love? If not, what? Sympathy? Empathy? Respect? Hatred? Nothing? I guess it is up to each couple and it is difficult to predict which one of these will be until you arrive at the time.
    Having a son now, I strongly feel that I must not divorce for my son's happiness. Only love toward him does not make myself stay with my wife, but that is one of the major reasons now. He chose us as his parents, so we are the ones who need to take care of him all through his life.

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  14. kristin sunFebruary 10, 2010 at 5:43 PM

    I agree some of your opinion. I know when two people decide to get merried, it means they should have responable for eachother, for their family especially when they have child. But things may change, people may change, if one day, they really think they can't live with each other, divorce mybe the better way for everyone, even for their children. I think no one want to see their parents quarrel or fighting everyday.

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